Waiting...

In my life, I have waited for many things. I waited for my first car. I waited to be able to get my first relaxer. I waited for my first apartment. I have waited tables. I’ve waited on phone calls. I have waited in the checkout line at Walmart. I wait every 15th and last day of the month for my paycheck. But the one thing that I think I am tired of waiting on the most is waiting on a man.



And no, I don’t mean waiting on the right man to come to me. I mean waiting on a man to get it together. As women, we tend to meet men that are “fixer uppers.” He has almost all the qualities that we need, except a few. So we wait. We wait on him to get another job because he just quit/got laid off/fired from the one he had. We wait on him to get a new car because the one he had got stolen/broke down/repossessed. We wait on him to be ready to settle down. And finally, we wait for him to stop dealing with his other chick and deal exclusively with us (sorry, I just stepped on somebody’s toes). The point is that we wait. We try to be patient. Men tend to tell us that they want us to believe what they say. Well, what happens when you believe this fool and it’s all just a bunch of crap? He keeps saying that he is getting a car on his next paycheck. He keeps saying that he has a few interviews lined up next week. He keeps saying that his baby mama and him are just “cool” and that he needs more time to explain to her that he is seeing you now. Or he and his girlfriend are “on the verge” of breaking up and he just needs you to be patient. After all, he has to let her down easily. Her feelings must be taken into consideration.



Well, I am tired of waiting. I was tired a long time ago, but I’m sick and tired now. And no, nothing happened to me recently that made me write this. Sometimes I just sit back and reflect of mistakes made in the past and I recognize my faults. And during this journey into relationships past, I realize that I spent a lot of time waiting on a man to get his stuff together. Yet, I could not think of one time that a man actually waited on me. Actually, I take that back. One of my ex’s did wait on me. He waited a year for me. And we lasted less than a year. Anywho…. my point is that women tend to wait on men and men don’t wait on women. Think about it: If a man wants something he attempts to get it. If it’s a challenge, he may enjoy the thrill of the chase or he may just get over it really quickly and move on to something else. Ladies, how many of you have been the side chick for months and months and even years on end because you were waiting on him to end his current relationship? Show of hands…okay. Now, men how many of you have actually waited longer than 30 days for a woman to do anything including but no limited to: get her own place, get a car, get a job, give you some, dump her man, leave her husband, get her hair done?



I don’t really have a solution for this random thought of mine. I can only speak for myself when I say that I don’t think I’m willing to wait anymore. But I would love to hear your opinions on this. Ladies, have you waited for a man? Men, have you waited on a woman? Was it worth it?